So many of us have found (or currently find) ourselves in the position of feeling a very real attachment to someone else that doesn't necessarily serve our best interests at that time. For instance, if you love someone who has distanced themselves from you for whatever reason, and who yet continues to have a psychic/emotional link to you, it can be a serious drain on your energy, your emotional well-being, and your time. This kind of attachment can not only keep you from making the most of every new day, it can also make you feel downright crazy.

Not to worry, you're not crazy. Since everyone and everything in the universe is made of energy, and since energy transcends time and space, it's quite possible to keep in touch with someone on a psychic level, even when there is no physical communication. Possible, but not the least bit fair. So how do you protect yourself and your internal resources from this kind of unfairness?

I recommend cutting the ties that bind you to the other person. Yes, this sounds harsh and drastic, but the lovely truth of the matter is that nothing is written in stone and ties can always be reattached if the situation changes for the better. In the meantime, cutting the ties will give you strength, build your self-esteem, and help you keep all of your precious energy for yourself.

There are several ways to cut the ties. One method that works well for me is to light a white candle, which helps to repel unwanted energy, promotes wholeness & healing, and helps to balance one's aura. Then I settle myself in a comfortable position and do a visualization from a beautiful and extremely helpful book called Goddess Meditations by Barbara Ardinger.

In this visualization, I picture myself following a path that climbs slowly around, and up, a large green hill. At the top of the path stands the temple of the Three Fates, the three sisters who, according to ancient mythology, determine one's destiny. The first sister, Clotho, spins the thread at the begining of one's life, Atropos weaves the thread into the fabric of one's actions, and Lachesis snips the thread at the conclusion of one's life.

In my meditation, the three sisters sit on the porch of their temple, hard at work upon the fabric of my life. I stand naked before them and can clearly see every cord that connects me to the person with whom I wish to cut the ties. Then I borrow Lachesis's golden scissors and carefully cut each and every cord that binds me to the other. I place each cord in a basket and present it to The Fates with my deepest thanks. Then I turn around and head back down the hill, unemcumbered by the ties that so recently bound me.

Inevitably, this has to be done more than once because the other person feels an immediate sense of loss and they hurry to reattach themselves to you. Sometimes, it has to be done every day for several weeks. But it's always worth it and I feel so fresh and clean when it's done.

Blessings,
Bella

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